Article By: Luke Bailey
If you don’t feel like an extrovert or an introvert, this might be why:
(1) When you’re out in the world, you’re probably not going to be starting conversations with strangers.
(2) Generally, you’re always happy to meet new people, but you’ll probably be uncomfortable if you have to do it w/out any of your existing friends w/you.
(3) When a topic of interest comes up in conversation, you’re more than happy to talk in great detail about it.
(4) But as soon as that’s done, you’ll happily sit listening to the conversation w/out saying another word.
(5) Spending too much time w/other people can be exhausting.
(6) Your calm, controlled professional self feels like a very different person to the 1 your friends see.
(7) Asserting yourself is tricky in many situations. Though when you really try, you nail it.
(8) You can often go out & have hours of fun being the life of the party, but suddenly find that your energy has dropped, & all you really want to do is go home.
(9) When you see things written about being an introvert, you start to relate…but then discover that you relate to the extrovert 1s as well.
(10) In fact, your friends disagreeing about whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert is probably a very good sign you’re an ambivert.
(11) Small talk is something that annoys you, bc while you can do it, there are instances when it feels a bit insincere.
(12) Some weekends, you just need to spend some time hanging out on your own.
(13) Too much time spent alone can leave you a bit downcast however, & you’re concerned that it’s not very productive.
(14) And some of the best weekends of your life have been when you didn’t go home for 3 days.
(15) Thinking before you speak isn’t a problem for you…most of the time. You still say some dumb things occasionally.
(16) You have a tendency to balance out whoever you’re with – if you’re w/some1 loud, you’ll be quieter. If they’re quiet, you’ll compensate for that.
(17) You’re known to be quite intuitive & good at picking up signals that other people can miss.
(18) Often, you just find yourself observing what’s happening around you.
(19) And at other times, you’ll be getting involved in the moment. Even if that does involve dancing.
(20) So in the right context, you love attention, but more often than not, you don’t want to be the person every1 is looking at.
(21) So if you can’t figure out whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, maybe it’s bc you’re actually an ambivert!